Author’s note: I have deliberately termed this as the Image centre although it is also known as the heart centre. The words “heart centre” can be extremely misleading to someone who is just starting to learn the Enneagram system. Relationships are complex, messy and hard to interpret. They are consistently inconsistent, so looking to our relationship behaviours and emotional processing alone will cause many to trip up while trying to figure out their tritype or where they lead from, in the Image centre. Most importantly it is about how the sense of shame, identity manifest internally/externally while presenting oneself to the world, and themselves.
2w1: Helpful busybodies, they take pride in caretaking and being there for someone. They appear sweet, loving and giving but it is important to remember that this is their defense mechanism against anticipatory rejection. To make themselves invaluable so people would feel hard pressed to cut them out of their lives. Sense of self is oriented externally, defined by the roles they take on in service of other people while being guided by a One – ish sense of integrity, and morals. At their healthy best while moving from Two to Four, they are creative individuals who acknowledge the need to honour the individuality of others and give them space rather than to smother them with love. They are also able to communicate their own needs and seek help from their loved ones. They are able to appreciate being in the moment, and incorporate new perspectives as their One wing moves to Seven. When unhealthy, they become manipulative, resentful and vengeful in their interpersonal relationships. They lash out from a sense of entitlement, and tend to wallow in their woes. Most religious leaders/heads of non – profit organizations share this archetype. Caregiving and compassion, flavoured by morals and preaching corrective behavior.
2w3: The Three wing makes these people more extroverted. They are excellent hosts and hostesses. They are perceived as warm and genuinely charming. Betty Cooper across most iterations is a 2w3. They not only wish to do good, but they want to be admired and appreciated for it. Not being given due credit will make them feel resentful and lash out passive aggressively towards their loved ones. They may even try to manipulate or guilt their loved ones in order to punish them. As they grow healthier, along with the previously mentioned Two moving towards Four, the Three healthily sheds its narcissism and brings with it a focus on the welfare of the community as a healthy Six would.
Twos and the Perceiving function axis:
SiNe, NeSi – In Si users, there is a conditional element of adherence attached to caregiving. It can cause one to become rather clingy out of fear. In Ne users, it softens the frenzied edge and brings about a more warm, loving bent to them. High Ne users try to get their loved ones involved in a dynamic exchange of ideas and discussing perspectives. Prone to using ideas to problem solve with a focus on meeting others’ emotional needs.
SeNi, NiSe – As with Ne users, it slows the Se user down and makes them more loving. It brings more of a focus on other people and their emotional needs, rather than having to live in the moment. They try to bring in their loves ones to share experiences as their way of expressing love. SeNi users will take the time out of their packed schedules to listen to the distress of loved ones and comfort them, thereby showing them how much they value them. Ni users will use the two ish approach to understand, predict and meet their loved ones’ emotional needs before they are even articulated. On the flipside, Ni users will use this knowledge of people, and the Two ish comforting nature to establish psychological dominion over their loved ones.
Twos and the Judging function axis:
FiTe, TeFi – Renders a fake shade of Fe to this axis. These Fi users will be more service oriented, and even more likely to suppress their emotional expression in lieu of meeting others’ emotional requirements or seek not burden others with their emotional needs. Te will want to maintain self – reliance, and not ask loved ones for help. Softens high Te users, and makes them more actively oriented towards caring for others. Almost likely to flip out and exhibit controlling tendencies if their loved ones try to assert their independence, because they will perceive that as no longer being needed which is just a step away from their greatest fear: Not being needed/ being replaced.
FeTi, TiFe – Strengthens the Fe, even lower Fe users can appear to be better equipped at handling situations that require the usage of this function. IxFJs will use their tertiary Ti to analyze the Fe needs of people, and meet them in the manner through which their dominant function manifests. Such as an Ni foreseeing emotional expectations, and meeting them; or an Si user using a tried and tested to provide comfort. Whether it be Jane Bennet from the Lizzie Bennet Diaries offering tea or Mrs. Weasley pumping everyone’s stomachs with delicious food. Also, enhanced manipulative tendencies because of their relative ease of reading people and how they can get people to open up to them. TiFe users will take care not to step on toes while expressing opinions, be protective and show this through openly taking up cudgels on behalf of their loved ones. More likely to use high Ti, in service of solving issues in order to help out people.